Each Thursday we go to the Story time for kids. There are about 20 kids. All the time I observe the relations between moms and kids. Some of the recent discoveries:
1. Baby around 8 month was crying in the stroller which is designed in the way that baby looks away from the mother. Mom gave her a pacifier and clapped her on pacifier in the mouth to stop baby from crying. Baby was crying and raised her hands towards the mother. Mother continued the same steps. Then, mother took the stroller and walked to the door. The baby was still raising her hands to mother.
How to react differently? Aware mother looks and hear what the baby signals to her. For example, I see the baby raising hands, I interpret this as the baby feels unsecured and want her mother to bring her to her body. The baby cries, thus, the baby is experiencing some discomfort emotions. The aware mother can bring the baby on her laps and allow the baby fully cry until she/he stops to release the anger, fear, or something else.
2. The boy about 2 years old was moving from his chair and changed his posture. Mother took him on her laps and started to talk to him with strict voice saying something like do not move and sit on the chair. The boy was very upset and hold his arms near his eyes.
How to react differently? Aware mother could ask the boy "How do you feel about sitting on this chair? What do you want while moving?" Then, Mother would help a child to satisfy his needs,like walking outside the room, if the reading is boring for him.
3. There was a music and the kids were signing. One mother kept her child between her lags which was about 12 months old. The child was trying to escape from her mother. But, the mother kept him persistently.
How to react differently? Aware mother could let her child dance in the middle of room if the teacher allows to do so and express his/her full potential to dance.
1. Baby around 8 month was crying in the stroller which is designed in the way that baby looks away from the mother. Mom gave her a pacifier and clapped her on pacifier in the mouth to stop baby from crying. Baby was crying and raised her hands towards the mother. Mother continued the same steps. Then, mother took the stroller and walked to the door. The baby was still raising her hands to mother.
How to react differently? Aware mother looks and hear what the baby signals to her. For example, I see the baby raising hands, I interpret this as the baby feels unsecured and want her mother to bring her to her body. The baby cries, thus, the baby is experiencing some discomfort emotions. The aware mother can bring the baby on her laps and allow the baby fully cry until she/he stops to release the anger, fear, or something else.
2. The boy about 2 years old was moving from his chair and changed his posture. Mother took him on her laps and started to talk to him with strict voice saying something like do not move and sit on the chair. The boy was very upset and hold his arms near his eyes.
How to react differently? Aware mother could ask the boy "How do you feel about sitting on this chair? What do you want while moving?" Then, Mother would help a child to satisfy his needs,like walking outside the room, if the reading is boring for him.
3. There was a music and the kids were signing. One mother kept her child between her lags which was about 12 months old. The child was trying to escape from her mother. But, the mother kept him persistently.
How to react differently? Aware mother could let her child dance in the middle of room if the teacher allows to do so and express his/her full potential to dance.
